When Your Body is Telling You Something, You Might Have to Listen
by Darla
So many things have been going on in my life outside of the internet. I try to make time and balance work and real-life but sometimes I'm just too stubborn to put things on hold.
As you know, my husband was recently hit by a car. He's ok, but I tried to balance time in catching up with blogging and taking care of him and the kids. Trying to be a superwoman is just stupid. In doing all of that I neglected the pain that I was in because I didn't think it was that important. Come to find out, I was wrong.
On Friday I was taken to the ER because I had a painful lump in my breast. Yes its my own fault for letting it get that far, but I think I was just afraid of what the results might be. It ended up being an infection which was non-cancerous, but because the infection had spread throughout my left breast I required surgery to have it removed. The surgery went well and I returned home yesterday. I will try and get some needed rest, but I wanted to share this with you for many reasons.
I'm noticing that blogging has become so competitive that WE will do anything, even put our own selves on hold just to try and outblog or outwrite someone else. That has never been my method. Although with the abundance of new bloggers coming to the plate it does seem hard to keep up.
Thanks for all the text messages and emails that were sent while I was in the hospital. Lol, Alan congrats on your N95 8GB! And Debi.... thanks for all the joyful phone calls!
While blogging is a full-time thing for me, I now know that no story, post, or new device is more important that my health. Hope all others take note.
Darla
I really hope you are ok now Darla! As you wrote, nothing is more important than a Life. I'm sure you're going to come back soon as our Mobile Diva, just like some weeks ago...
A little kiss from Italy... ;)
Posted by: p@sco | October 30, 2007 at 09:03 AM
Darla, I wish you and your family well and want you to know me and my friends have great admiration for you.
Posted by: Patrick McGauley | October 30, 2007 at 09:08 AM
Darla,
I've said it before and I'll say it again. Don't worry about the competition. Let them worry about you.
;)
Also - Glad to hear you're on the mend. I missed your Jaikus while I was in SF last week and was shocked to read all about it on my return.
Big love,
Posted by: Whatleydude | October 30, 2007 at 09:13 AM
Get well soon Darla.
Posted by: Avinash Rathod | October 30, 2007 at 09:26 AM
i can't agree more with ya on the health and the blogging subject !
Wishing ya a speedy recovery and come back to blog more
Posted by: Carl Fares | October 30, 2007 at 09:27 AM
Oh... Sad to hear, didn't know about this until now. I wish you and your family well. As you said, it's not worth sacrifying yourself and your life for "keeping up" and "outblogging" others.
Posted by: Tommi Vilkamo | October 30, 2007 at 09:42 AM
Darla, I just learned about this... We are here to support you... Debi has set up a Facebook group... again, we are here to support you. Hope all get well quick!
ceo
Posted by: C. Enrique Ortiz | October 30, 2007 at 10:06 AM
Thank God you are ok! I have to admit that I got worried since you haven^t updated your blog for a week now. I wish for the best full recovery!
Get the proper rest and come back when you will feel strong enough!
We want our Mobile Diva to be healthy first!
Your Greek Fan,
Ilias
Posted by: IliasK | October 30, 2007 at 10:28 AM
Get better! Don't worry about the internet, there are more important things in life, it will always be here when you come back to it.
Posted by: Stefan Constantinescu | October 30, 2007 at 12:06 PM
I'm glad to hear that you're okay. Get some rest and take care of the family.
I'm sure everyone will agree that we like to read quality, not content. You are the Nokia queen - all hail Darla!
Posted by: Baby Girl | October 30, 2007 at 12:11 PM
Sorry to hear this, but glad to see you're responding with your usual joie de vivre!
Posted by: carlo | October 30, 2007 at 12:32 PM
Darla,
It's almost transparent when you care for someone and start neglecting your own health. You don't even realize it. I'm still in Poland caring for my mom. For two weeks I was getting up 5-6 times a night helping my mom turn, drink, move a pillow and in the morning when the nurse was coming to help she started telling me that I have to look out for myself too. I did not even realize but my head was spinning from time to time. As my mom is on morphine now (cancer is spreading) I just want to care for her more than I do for myself but as my friend said this to me many times (we're both in the airlines industry)... Put on your oxygen mask before you help those next to you. It does no good to the ones that need help from us if we are not capable of providing that help. So honey, put on your mask first as I have put mine on so we can be strong for others. YOU will get a HUGE kiss from me next time I'll see you to thank God that you are OK.
Maciek
Posted by: Ordxpres - Maciek | October 30, 2007 at 12:44 PM
Sorry to hear that times are tough Darla, get well soon!
Posted by: Chris | October 30, 2007 at 01:01 PM
Hi Darla,
Hope your getting some much needed rest. Like others have mentioned, don't worry others for now. You have a lot of very loyal readers and friends that will follow you no matter what changes take place. I visit other blog as well and thats because all of you have different views about each topic.
Hopefully you and your family can recover without any further delays.
Posted by: Dee | October 30, 2007 at 01:02 PM
Zomg you never told me ! Hope you're feeling better now Darla :) I dunno if it means anything ,but in my books you're always gonna be no1 Mobile Diva :)
Posted by: Cj | October 30, 2007 at 01:39 PM
Take good care of yourself and your family at the first place, Darla. You have lots of loyal readers who will stick with you even if you don't update that often.
Posted by: Jaro | October 30, 2007 at 01:42 PM
Allah Bless u dear wid a;; prayers n best wishes
Posted by: Talal | October 30, 2007 at 01:48 PM
Allah Bless u dear wid all prayers n best wishes
Posted by: Talal | October 30, 2007 at 01:49 PM
Hey Darla - I hope you're both feeling better, emotionally and physically after your op. I'll drop in a prayer for you :)
Posted by: Imran Ali | October 30, 2007 at 01:49 PM
I read in your blog you have been wrong, I hope you better soon, health comes first if you can help with something to send.
Toni Kisses
Posted by: aiglesias | October 30, 2007 at 01:51 PM
yes, health is priority #1, sending healing thoughts your way!
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Posted by: mobilejones | October 30, 2007 at 02:21 PM
I would've taken a flight to the US to kick you in the butt if that lump turned out to be a malignant disease! I was doing an internship in the oncology department in the hospital a couple of weeks ago and everytime I saw a patient who neglected him/herself, I was filled with anger... Health is nothing to be underestimated, no matter WHAT the reason. You learned it hard but I think you learned it well.
Now that's off my chest, thank God you're OK and your husband too. Take good care of yourself and rest a couple of days. We know our beloved detective will be back stronger than ever ;)
Oh and the new site design is nice :) good job there (y)
Posted by: Rita Khoury | October 30, 2007 at 03:01 PM
Hey, Darla, take some time out and get yourself back to 100%, please!
Yes, the S60 blogosphere does seem very competitive these days. I only try to be first when it's a really HUGE story 8-)))
Posted by: Steve Litchfield | October 30, 2007 at 03:38 PM
Sometimes God's wakeup calls seem a little harsh to us, but they are affective! You and your family are in my prayers. God Bless!
Posted by: zadosha | October 30, 2007 at 04:50 PM